Women who are loving TOWARD men are always lovable BY men, no matter what those women look like over the course of the day to day fray.
Tag: Adultery
The level of personal offense someone takes when presented with a truth claim does nothing whatsoever to invalidate the truth claim.
The conflated argument Evans puts forward stands on the proposition that it “should make no difference” whether a wife maintains stewardship over her subjective appearance — that such stewardship or lack thereof ought to have absolutely no impact on her husband’s daily battle with sexual temptation.
While Pastor Challies starts his article by pointing out the red herring Evans cooked up — that if wives slouch off on their appearance, husbands will cheat on them — that isn’t what he chooses to focus on in the main thrust. Challies makes the case that while YES appearance counts in marriage, he dispels the notion that becoming a slob absolves your spouse of any sin. Further, he draws the distinction between naturally growing old and living life with what he calls inward and outward appearance.
When a wife rejects or belittles her husband’s sexual needs, she very obviously HARMS his ability to avoid improper sexual impulses. But that isn’t entirely what either of these cited truth claims state. The truth claim in each of the above cases expands on that accepted fact by stating that when a wife ignores (a) her appearance and (b) her husband’s sexual needs, she is NOT HELPING him to avoid sexual temptation.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not attempting an argument from personal ignorance, nor am I accusing Evans of outright lying. After all, what would be her possible agenda?
Does appearance matter in marriage? Is refusing to take stewardship over one’s personal appearance — “appearance” as defined by whatever subjective standards individual married couples recognize — considered sinful?
Two months into my first marriage, my husband quit his job. I had to withdraw plans to start school three weeks later, and we had to pack up and move back to his hometown. That decision he made started a cycle of unemployment/employment that made our marriage very stressful and very hard. Between the financial problems we faced and the addiction problems he faced during our over nine years of marriage, his adulterous affair and our divorce was a relief for me. I was very much over marriage, had no desire to even date, and never intended to be in a relationship with a man again. Six weeks later, I met Gregg.
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Disclaimer: This is a rather candid discussion about marital intimacy.
The fourth virtue of a Godly Wife and Mother as outlined in the book Feminine Appeal, Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother by Carolyn Mahaney is the virtue of the Pleasure of Purity.
Caution: This post consists of a rather frank and forthright discussion of human sexuality in the context of marital intimacy.
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