Try replacing the drawer and cabinet door handles or knobs, and the hinges with a nice looking but inexpensive set that will accent the look of the room.
For around $20, you can get a can of countertop treatment which fills in the cuts scratches and dings, and coats the whole counter, making that Formica look better than new in one of 40 possible modern colors.
Rope LED lighting is inexpensive and provides a warm, soft glow under the counter.
Maybe hubby can paint mis-matched appliances to match your other appliances.
